I have never been on a date. Ever. Well, except for the ones that my dad took us girls out on. But aside from that, I have never been out with a guy, couple or group setting, on an official date. Do I think I’ve missed out? Well, I used to think that way. But not anymore. I have decided that I am going to wait. I am not going to go on any dates that will compromise my promise to my future husband (if God chooses to bless me so). If I do not see the guy as my potential husband, then I will end the interest right there. I don’t want to cause any guy any pain. I want my brothers in Christ to be blessed by our friendship, not pained. I struggle with knowing what God’s will is concerning this, but I have concluded that for now, I will remain single and satisfied in Him. He is the one true relationship that I seek and that I need to survive. None other can compare.
This does not mean that I will not date! It simply means that I will not date until I know that the guy is to be my husband. And even then, I will be careful and make sure that I do not place him or myself in any situation that will cause sin or questioning from outside parties.
Yes, I have been reading the book I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris. It has helped me tremendously to see the wrong idea I had about dating. It is not my only source for this decision, but it has certainly helped. And I know some of you think I’m weird/crazy/silly etc. :-) I know. But it’s ok. No one has to like or agree with my stand. I have only just given my life completely to God, and this has to go to Him too. So if I can strengthen my relationship with Christ first, then I can think about pursuing a relationship with a man who can encourage me in keeping my relationship with Christ strong.
From the Apostle Paul to the Corinthians, the marriage chapter, I quote from chapter 7:32-35 of the first book: “I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.”
Paul gave the example as a single man. After his conversion, he lived his life for the Lord. And what a dynamic life it was! I guess that’s one of the reasons he’s my favorite Bible character, aside from the life of Christ.
Ok, that’s all for now about that. After I finish the book (I’m only on the sixth chapter), I may write another summary. Until then, I’ve kissed dating goodbye. :-)
Peace.
Amy
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